Dependant or Independant?
The answer is obvious ---so how do we actually do it ? When do we change modes?
The basic answer is we all need others to help us do that/ see the point and when and where it is . If our mothers were too kind to us and did everything for us we need to acknowledge that .
Being a good mother or father is not neccesarily following our own or someone else's idea of that.
But we do have some models - tested and tried
Women can drive men away from helping here ( 35% of women in Australia are having babies without a man committed to that family) if women don't recognise the families need to give children a sense of healthy dependancy and independance